Comments on: Dealing With Critical People http://kirkweisler.com/t4d/2010/03/11/dealing-with-critical-people/ Chief Morale Officer Kirk Weisler's Thought 4 the Day Wed, 23 May 2012 00:47:00 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.2 By: Umbrella http://kirkweisler.com/t4d/2010/03/11/dealing-with-critical-people/#comment-39591 Umbrella Mon, 06 Sep 2010 13:28:21 +0000 http://kirkweisler.com/t4d/2010/03/11/dealing-with-critical-people/#comment-39591 Thanks Kirk! Thanks Kirk!

]]> By: wynn http://kirkweisler.com/t4d/2010/03/11/dealing-with-critical-people/#comment-23983 wynn Tue, 16 Mar 2010 20:45:16 +0000 http://kirkweisler.com/t4d/2010/03/11/dealing-with-critical-people/#comment-23983 I understand this entirely. I know a women who is just like this. She uses manipulative ways to drag people into her conversations and she gets off on putting others down to hide her insecurities, and her unhappiness. I cut it off before it escalated. I tried to be a friend a few times, but at this point I realize its her issues, not mine. You need people in your life who will encourage you, and have your back, not negative criticism, and if they give you criticism, it should be positive feedback, and constuctive criticism. Let face it we are not going to please everyone, however we can respect people and do it in a tactful way. I understand this entirely. I know a women who is just like this. She uses manipulative ways to drag people into her conversations and she gets off on putting others down to hide her insecurities, and her unhappiness. I cut it off before it escalated. I tried to be a friend a few times, but at this point I realize its her issues, not mine.

You need people in your life who will encourage you, and have your back, not negative criticism, and if they give you criticism, it should be positive feedback, and constuctive criticism. Let face it we are not going to please everyone, however we can respect people and do it in a tactful way.

]]> By: Frances Arnold http://kirkweisler.com/t4d/2010/03/11/dealing-with-critical-people/#comment-23649 Frances Arnold Fri, 12 Mar 2010 16:38:10 +0000 http://kirkweisler.com/t4d/2010/03/11/dealing-with-critical-people/#comment-23649 Thanks Kirk! I really appreciate this commentary. It can be quite challenging to deal with negative and critical people, and yet they are definitely all around. It's particularly difficult when someone is a close colleague or patron. I'll try employing your suggestions, which will hopefully change the degree of frustration I sometimes feel over critical people. Thanks again! Thanks Kirk! I really appreciate this commentary. It can be quite challenging to deal with negative and critical people, and yet they are definitely all around. It’s particularly difficult when someone is a close colleague or patron. I’ll try employing your suggestions, which will hopefully change the degree of frustration I sometimes feel over critical people.

Thanks again!

]]> By: kirkweisler http://kirkweisler.com/t4d/2010/03/11/dealing-with-critical-people/#comment-23582 kirkweisler Thu, 11 Mar 2010 17:09:20 +0000 http://kirkweisler.com/t4d/2010/03/11/dealing-with-critical-people/#comment-23582 Kirk, I enjoy your “Thought for the Day” every day. Today it was especially nice to see because it sort of affirmed some of the things I try to teach my daughter and (when they come to me) my staff. I found your comments about comparison interesting since just yesterday evening, I wrote the following to be posted on my FaceBook page a week from Friday: "Comparing yourself to others at work or in life often leaves you dissatisfied. Compare yourself to the best possible version of you; then work to diminish the differences.” See, I keep a draft “Note” on FaceBook all the time with great inspirational sayings. I update it when I come across something I know I would like to post sometime. Monday through Thursday, I quote other people. On Friday I try to post one of my philosophies. In any event, would it be OK if I posted sometime in the near future the following? “I’ve always been taught and come to believe that we see the world not as it is, but rather, as we ourselves are.” ~Kirk Weisler Annette Lavigne Director of Technology Kirk,

I enjoy your “Thought for the Day” every day. Today it was especially nice to see because it sort of affirmed some of the things I try to teach my daughter and (when they come to me) my staff. I found your comments about comparison interesting since just yesterday evening, I wrote the following to be posted on my FaceBook page a week from Friday:

“Comparing yourself to others at work or in life often leaves you dissatisfied. Compare yourself to the best possible version of you; then work to diminish the differences.”

See, I keep a draft “Note” on FaceBook all the time with great inspirational sayings. I update it when I come across something I know I would like to post sometime. Monday through Thursday, I quote other people. On Friday I try to post one of my philosophies. In any event, would it be OK if I posted sometime in the near future the following?

“I’ve always been taught and come to believe that we see the world not as it is, but rather, as we ourselves are.” ~Kirk Weisler

Annette Lavigne
Director of Technology

]]> By: Teresa http://kirkweisler.com/t4d/2010/03/11/dealing-with-critical-people/#comment-23579 Teresa Thu, 11 Mar 2010 17:01:56 +0000 http://kirkweisler.com/t4d/2010/03/11/dealing-with-critical-people/#comment-23579 It was exactly what I needed to read today. Thank you. Teresa It was exactly what I needed to read today.

Thank you.
Teresa

]]> By: kirkweisler http://kirkweisler.com/t4d/2010/03/11/dealing-with-critical-people/#comment-23578 kirkweisler Thu, 11 Mar 2010 16:58:20 +0000 http://kirkweisler.com/t4d/2010/03/11/dealing-with-critical-people/#comment-23578 Kirk, Thank you, Thank you, Thank you. I cannot express my thanks at the messages you have shared on a daily basis. This morning I was readlly struggling with this very subject, and wondering how best to proceed with the struggles of every day life, when I got this gem in my inbox. The words in your thought today really resonated with me and I will apply them to my life and pass them on to my kids and hopefully they will resonate with them too. Thanks again for your encouragement. GH Kirk,
Thank you, Thank you, Thank you.
I cannot express my thanks at the messages you have shared on a daily basis. This morning I was readlly struggling with this very subject, and wondering how best to proceed with the struggles of every day life, when I got this gem in my inbox. The words in your thought today really resonated with me and I will apply them to my life and pass them on to my kids and hopefully they will resonate with them too.

Thanks again for your encouragement.
GH

]]> By: kirkweisler http://kirkweisler.com/t4d/2010/03/11/dealing-with-critical-people/#comment-23577 kirkweisler Thu, 11 Mar 2010 16:09:58 +0000 http://kirkweisler.com/t4d/2010/03/11/dealing-with-critical-people/#comment-23577 FYI...I'm glad this went on longer than intended, sometimes you're just on a roll! Great T4D today! FYI…I’m glad this went on longer than intended, sometimes you’re just on a roll! Great T4D today!

]]> By: kirkweisler http://kirkweisler.com/t4d/2010/03/11/dealing-with-critical-people/#comment-23576 kirkweisler Thu, 11 Mar 2010 16:09:08 +0000 http://kirkweisler.com/t4d/2010/03/11/dealing-with-critical-people/#comment-23576 This was great, Kirk. Amazing how things really speak to us just when we really need to hear them! Short quotes are good sometimes….but sometimes so is dialogue to make it real. Have a great day! Blessings to you. Paula Wilkinson, PMP Manager of Project Management, Local Government Division Tyler Technologies, Inc. This was great, Kirk. Amazing how things really speak to us just when we really need to hear them! Short quotes are good sometimes….but sometimes so is dialogue to make it real.

Have a great day! Blessings to you.

Paula Wilkinson, PMP
Manager of Project Management, Local Government Division
Tyler Technologies, Inc.

]]> By: kirkweisler http://kirkweisler.com/t4d/2010/03/11/dealing-with-critical-people/#comment-23575 kirkweisler Thu, 11 Mar 2010 16:01:09 +0000 http://kirkweisler.com/t4d/2010/03/11/dealing-with-critical-people/#comment-23575 This touches my heart – thank you! I work with a toxic person. This quote is going to be printed out and placed in a primary place: Their cynical and sarcastic humor, demeaning and rude comments and insults directed at you or others … reveals only their own unhappiness, insecurity, and the depths of their own misery. I believe this quote will help me get through the day. Your emails always bring a smile. Thank you again for being the intelligent, giving and kind person that you are. Kathy Storch This touches my heart – thank you! I work with a toxic person. This quote is going to be printed out and placed in a primary place: Their cynical and sarcastic humor, demeaning and rude comments and insults directed at you or others … reveals only their own unhappiness, insecurity, and the depths of their own misery.

I believe this quote will help me get through the day. Your emails always bring a smile. Thank you again for being the intelligent, giving and kind person that you are.

Kathy Storch

]]> By: Cathy http://kirkweisler.com/t4d/2010/03/11/dealing-with-critical-people/#comment-23574 Cathy Thu, 11 Mar 2010 15:53:53 +0000 http://kirkweisler.com/t4d/2010/03/11/dealing-with-critical-people/#comment-23574 My gentle and kind-hearted 10-year old son, Tommy, has recently become the target of bullying at school. I have had many conversations with him about how it is not about him it is about the bully's lack of self-worth. I have taught him to walk away or to shout "Cut it out!" loud enough for the adult in charge to hear. Unfortunately, none of this has stopped the behavior. While your quote is great for teens and adults, especially ones who have a strong sense of self-worth, I am curious if your advice would be the same for a child who is just learning who he is and takes all criticism to heart. Keep up the commentary, long or short, it gives deeper meaning to the quotes and thoughts. Thanks My gentle and kind-hearted 10-year old son, Tommy, has recently become the target of bullying at school. I have had many conversations with him about how it is not about him it is about the bully’s lack of self-worth. I have taught him to walk away or to shout “Cut it out!” loud enough for the adult in charge to hear. Unfortunately, none of this has stopped the behavior.

While your quote is great for teens and adults, especially ones who have a strong sense of self-worth, I am curious if your advice would be the same for a child who is just learning who he is and takes all criticism to heart.

Keep up the commentary, long or short, it gives deeper meaning to the quotes and thoughts.

Thanks

]]>