Comments on: Life is Long http://kirkweisler.com/t4d/2008/11/17/life-is-long/ Chief Morale Officer Kirk Weisler's Thought 4 the Day Mon, 21 May 2012 18:06:42 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.2 By: AW http://kirkweisler.com/t4d/2008/11/17/life-is-long/#comment-5836 AW Mon, 17 Nov 2008 18:31:02 +0000 http://kirkweisler.com/t4d/2008/11/17/life-is-long/#comment-5836 Kirk, I love this post. My father is much like the walk-away father mentioned in the comment above. He is closing in on 60 now and has many, many regrets of decisions that he can never ever fix. Sad. While I still harbor pain from his decisions that negatively impacted my life, I do everything I can to use him as an example. An example of what NOT to do. I work hard at what I call Regret Prevention. I ask myself questions often, "Is this chore list as important as time with my husband/son? In 5 years, will this decision haunt me? In one month, will I care that my husband didn't wash my sweater properly? Will this benefit or wreak havoc on my family's future? Can I respond to this disappointment differently?" Hard, hard stuff in the heat of moment. But if I don't take the time to do it NOW, I WILL regret it later. In some instances, I already regret. SO frustrating when it's preventable, yanno? Every choice has a consequence. We must make the life choices that has consequences that we and those that it impacts can live best with. Kirk, I love this post. My father is much like the walk-away father mentioned in the comment above. He is closing in on 60 now and has many, many regrets of decisions that he can never ever fix. Sad. While I still harbor pain from his decisions that negatively impacted my life, I do everything I can to use him as an example. An example of what NOT to do. I work hard at what I call Regret Prevention. I ask myself questions often, “Is this chore list as important as time with my husband/son? In 5 years, will this decision haunt me? In one month, will I care that my husband didn’t wash my sweater properly? Will this benefit or wreak havoc on my family’s future? Can I respond to this disappointment differently?” Hard, hard stuff in the heat of moment. But if I don’t take the time to do it NOW, I WILL regret it later. In some instances, I already regret. SO frustrating when it’s preventable, yanno?

Every choice has a consequence. We must make the life choices that has consequences that we and those that it impacts can live best with.

]]> By: Tom http://kirkweisler.com/t4d/2008/11/17/life-is-long/#comment-5833 Tom Mon, 17 Nov 2008 15:24:56 +0000 http://kirkweisler.com/t4d/2008/11/17/life-is-long/#comment-5833 Kirk, Your thought for the day hit home. Last Friday I attended the funeral of my 30-year old nephew, a police officer killed in the line of duty. Officers from all over the state, and many outside, attended the funeral along with family, friends, and community. My nephew was hailed a hero and the eulogies detailed a man who lived a full life, loved his wife and their 4-week old twins, and gave his all to serve and protect his community. His father left my sister when my nephew was young--a decision that negatively impacted their lives. However, they moved forward, and my nephew lived an exemplary life of service, love, and loyalty. My sister's ex-husband on the other hand, choose a less than stellar life. He also attended the funeral. While others shed tears of loss, this man shed tears of pain and regret. He realized the impact of his decision and how he missed out on knowing his son and being in his life. Now that opportunity is gone. I have never seen such a despondent, sad, and lonely man as this. I will never forget his uncontrollable sobs, and cries of "What have I done?" and "How could I have been so selfish?" Decisions indeed determine destiny. A father's decisions have left him alone and hopeless. The son's decisions led to a full life of love and service--a hero remembered. Many thanks for your dedication Kirk. I know it takes much time and effort to keep T4D going while also giving time to your family. I know you have a busy schedule. But I read your thoughts every day. They add a positive lift to my day and help me stay focused on my values. Kirk,

Your thought for the day hit home. Last Friday I attended the funeral of my 30-year old nephew, a police officer killed in the line of duty. Officers from all over the state, and many outside, attended the funeral along with family, friends, and community. My nephew was hailed a hero and the eulogies detailed a man who lived a full life, loved his wife and their 4-week old twins, and gave his all to serve and protect his community.

His father left my sister when my nephew was young–a decision that negatively impacted their lives. However, they moved forward, and my nephew lived an exemplary life of service, love, and loyalty. My sister’s ex-husband on the other hand, choose a less than stellar life.

He also attended the funeral. While others shed tears of loss, this man shed tears of pain and regret. He realized the impact of his decision and how he missed out on knowing his son and being in his life. Now that opportunity is gone. I have never seen such a despondent, sad, and lonely man as this. I will never forget his uncontrollable sobs, and cries of “What have I done?” and “How could I have been so selfish?”

Decisions indeed determine destiny. A father’s decisions have left him alone and hopeless. The son’s decisions led to a full life of love and service–a hero remembered.

Many thanks for your dedication Kirk. I know it takes much time and effort to keep T4D going while also giving time to your family. I know you have a busy schedule. But I read your thoughts every day. They add a positive lift to my day and help me stay focused on my values.

]]> By: Mike Donovan http://kirkweisler.com/t4d/2008/11/17/life-is-long/#comment-5832 Mike Donovan Mon, 17 Nov 2008 15:08:38 +0000 http://kirkweisler.com/t4d/2008/11/17/life-is-long/#comment-5832 Kirk, Your statement "Decisions determine destiny…. let’s work to make them wisely! " Can not be overstated, decisions made in a moment of passion often come back to bite the owner. Kirk,
Your statement “Decisions determine destiny…. let’s work to make them wisely! ”

Can not be overstated, decisions made in a moment of passion often come back to bite the owner.

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