Comments on: Thanksgiving for the Differences http://kirkweisler.com/t4d/2007/11/26/thanksgiving-for-the-differences/ Chief Morale Officer Kirk Weisler's Thought 4 the Day Thu, 17 May 2012 20:17:34 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.2 By: Floyd http://kirkweisler.com/t4d/2007/11/26/thanksgiving-for-the-differences/#comment-395 Floyd Mon, 26 Nov 2007 18:55:09 +0000 http://kirkweisler.com/t4d/2007/11/26/thanksgiving-for-the-differences/#comment-395 <p>I enjoyed your recollection and observations on the gathering of your families in Atlanta. As I was reading them I, of course, reflected on my family gatherings over the weekend as well. My father died about 7 weeks ago and this was the first Thanksgiving for my mother without him (they had been married for 61 years). So during the weekend it was interesting to watch my mother let go of the supreme hostess role and let herself just enjoy herself with the family and guests.</p> <p>I also reflected on the Angeles Arrien Four-fold Way and how it helps me experience such situations similarly to how you did.</p> <p>Floyd</p> I enjoyed your recollection and observations on the gathering of your families in Atlanta. As I was reading them I, of course, reflected on my family gatherings over the weekend as well. My father died about 7 weeks ago and this was the first Thanksgiving for my mother without him (they had been married for 61 years). So during the weekend it was interesting to watch my mother let go of the supreme hostess role and let herself just enjoy herself with the family and guests.

I also reflected on the Angeles Arrien Four-fold Way and how it helps me experience such situations similarly to how you did.

Floyd

]]> By: Jeanne http://kirkweisler.com/t4d/2007/11/26/thanksgiving-for-the-differences/#comment-394 Jeanne Mon, 26 Nov 2007 17:12:49 +0000 http://kirkweisler.com/t4d/2007/11/26/thanksgiving-for-the-differences/#comment-394 Great words of wisdom! I wish I had digested this sooner. I always knew that true love is exhibited by allowing others to be themselves and that we need to let go of our own desires/habits at times to accomodate the needs of others. It is not always easy to do what you know in your heart is right. My Mom, confined to a wheelchair, moved in with us (husband and 4 children) about 3 years ago. She was fully mobile at that time but after suffereing 2 major strokes, her legs and right side were left weak and she was no longer able to walk or attend to common daily tasks without assistance. It became more and more difficult to accomodate her needs and along with that came bitterness and complaining. My mom passed away in late Aug and I would give anything to let her be the "matriarch again". I miss her and "her ways" terribly. It is always good when you can make these realizations when you still have time to identify and adapt your ways. Keep doing what you're doing. Our parents are such a significant part of our life. They gave so much to us and in turn, we should do the same for them while we blessed with the time to do so. Happy Holidays Great words of wisdom! I wish I had digested this sooner. I always knew that true love is exhibited by allowing others to be themselves and that we need to let go of our own desires/habits at times to accomodate the needs of others. It is not always easy to do what you know in your heart is right.

My Mom, confined to a wheelchair, moved in with us (husband and 4 children) about 3 years ago. She was fully mobile at that time but after suffereing 2 major strokes, her legs and right side were left weak and she was no longer able to walk or attend to common daily tasks without assistance. It became more and more difficult to accomodate her needs and along with that came bitterness and complaining.

My mom passed away in late Aug and I would give anything to let her be the “matriarch again”. I miss her and “her ways” terribly. It is always good when you can make these realizations when you still have time to identify and adapt your ways. Keep doing what you’re doing. Our parents are such a significant part of our life. They gave so much to us and in turn, we should do the same for them while we blessed with the time to do so.

Happy Holidays

]]> By: Kirk http://kirkweisler.com/t4d/2007/11/26/thanksgiving-for-the-differences/#comment-393 Kirk Mon, 26 Nov 2007 15:16:45 +0000 http://kirkweisler.com/t4d/2007/11/26/thanksgiving-for-the-differences/#comment-393 Let me make sure this is perfectly clear here - I LOVE MY MOM! She, like Mary Poppins, is practically perfect in every way. The T4D is partly a celebration of her tremendous love and service of her family. The other part - the bigger part is about is about me and people like me who need and want to grow in the area of being more considerate and patient of others that we live and work with. Not patient because they are wrong or weird, but because we are. Heck, they are being patient with us and our differences. I know for me, with all of my shortcomings, issues, quirks, habits, and opinions this is no small thing. Kirk Let me make sure this is perfectly clear here - I LOVE MY MOM! She, like Mary Poppins, is practically perfect in every way. The T4D is partly a celebration of her tremendous love and service of her family. The other part - the bigger part is about is about me and people like me who need and want to grow in the area of being more considerate and patient of others that we live and work with. Not patient because they are wrong or weird, but because we are. Heck, they are being patient with us and our differences. I know for me, with all of my shortcomings, issues, quirks, habits, and opinions this is no small thing.
Kirk

]]> By: Cindy Buckhart http://kirkweisler.com/t4d/2007/11/26/thanksgiving-for-the-differences/#comment-392 Cindy Buckhart Mon, 26 Nov 2007 14:56:24 +0000 http://kirkweisler.com/t4d/2007/11/26/thanksgiving-for-the-differences/#comment-392 My family sounds like yours. We are all very different, and when we get together it's a wonderful event. But if I am not careful I start to have an opinion about the way they do things. It's so much like work where we need to give others the benefit of the doubt. I mean really, who showed up to work with the intention being difficult? No one. So the problem is not with them - it is with me. Cindy My family sounds like yours. We are all very different, and when we get together it’s a wonderful event. But if I am not careful I start to have an opinion about the way they do things. It’s so much like work where we need to give others the benefit of the doubt. I mean really, who showed up to work with the intention being difficult? No one. So the problem is not with them - it is with me.
Cindy

]]> By: Terry http://kirkweisler.com/t4d/2007/11/26/thanksgiving-for-the-differences/#comment-390 Terry Mon, 26 Nov 2007 14:51:47 +0000 http://kirkweisler.com/t4d/2007/11/26/thanksgiving-for-the-differences/#comment-390 Great T4D Kirk - It's true... nearly every time I find myself being bugged by someone else - a close examination reveals the issue is really my own. Terry Great T4D Kirk -
It’s true… nearly every time I find myself being bugged by someone else - a close examination reveals the issue is really my own.
Terry

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