Have you ever made an announcement about something at work and before anyone really understood it’s intent or purpose they had already decided it wasn’t going to work? Have you ever seen an organizations culture initially reject a proposed and needful change and then later, after some serious effort and painful conversations finally accept it, and then later celebrate it as needed and maybe even say it was long over due?
When Covey taught his famous 7 Habits of Highly Effective People one Habit he spent a lot of time on was Habit 5 ”Seek First to Understand, Then to Be Understood.” He put forth that if this habit could be mastered by individuals and organizations effectiveness in relationships and results would exponentially increase. We would in effect stop rushing to judgment and then wouldn’t need to spend so much time back tracking and working to rebuild relationships and trust that were damaged in that rush.
Often times as people rush to judgment, not fully understanding the full intent of what is being communicated they create the very barriers that kill the possibility of potential of what is being communicated from ever being realized.
Rushing to judgment happens as much in the home space as it does in the workplace. As a kid growing up and a parent of 5 children…let me share an example that I am guessing nearly everyone of you can relate with. One child is missing something… a valued toy, or perhaps a wallet, or set of headphones. Since it is not where they believe they left it…it must have been taken by a sibling. Accusations ensue and a conflict begins to escalate…. relationships and trust are affected.
Then the missing item turns up…under the owners pillow, bed or backpack. It turns out that brother or sister didn’t actually take the item after all. Hopefully apologies are offered and all is made right. Kids are pretty good about being quick to forgive and forget. The younger they are the easier this forgiving and forgetting behavior seems to be. Sadly we seem to grow out of this.
So what can be done to slow and perhaps even stop this trust damaging and organizational damning “Rush to Judgment”?
The answer, of course, is… COOKIES!
About 20 years ago I heard Stephen Covey use a story called “The Cookie Thief” as he was illustrating the principle of “paradigm shifting”. (I began using it almost immediately in a slightly different context.)
About 11 years ago Valerie Cox adapted this age old story into a poem that was published in one of the then very popular “Chick Soup for the Soul” books. Her version is one of many of this 80 year old tale and is probably the most widely read.
I loved the story as Covey told it so much that about 8 years ago I attempted my own poetic version of the story and created an illustrated book titled cleverly “The Cookie Thief” with it’s own Website and Facebook page.
About a year ago my aspiring film maker son Jake made a 6 minute movie of my book. He organized an 8 person film crew, got access the Atlanta international airport and Delta Airlines even let him do some filming on one of their airplanes.
I think the film is wonderfully done and offer it to you as a free training aid for your journey of creating a more powerful culture and creating awareness about how “Rushing to Judgment” might be hindering the realization of more powerful cultural outcomes. I also want to offer you some Free Cookies - or Free Copies of my book, “The Cookie Thief”.
So how do you get Free Cookies? EASY! Buy 1 get one FREE. For the whole month of December!
For every “already discounted” copy of the Cookie Thief Book you purchase... I will send you an additional copy.
If you buy 1 you will receive 2. If you buy 100 you will receive 200.(This might not work so well with you folks in Australia!)
Any purchase of over 40 books will also come with a free site license E-Copy of the book for training. (an $89 value)
Also, if you like it, I would love your help in sharing my sons video on your blogs, FB, and Twitter accounts.
If you want to subscribe to his youtube channel -VislerStudios - you do so at your own risk. There is some good stuff there…and there is some other stuff there! My favorite and his most viewed film is the 90 second film “Are you Ticklish?” Be sure to watch it to the very end.
If you want me to sign or personalize any of your books just let me know. Happy to do it.