Creating Weather With Words

Have you every heard the phrase “We carry our own weather with us.”  This implies to me that regardless of the weather outside, that I cannot control, is the potential weather of my attitude and emotions that I can control.  I’m in Vancouver today, doing my 2nd day of training at University of British Columbia to hundreds of faculty.  My subject is naturally workplace engagement.  The title of my training is “The Re-Freshing Co-Worker (how to be one).  Later in the day, I do a couple hours with the leadership team, “The RE-Freshing Leader”.

When I spoke yesterday with a couple folks we talked about how just a few words can invite sunshine or storms into the workplace.

One person gave this example.

When someone says they are going on a cruise, don’t say ‘ I hope you don’t get seasick’.  Instead say,  ‘I hope you have great weather and a wonderful time.  ~ Mary

Whenever I have gotten lazy or thoughtless with my language I’ve regretted the storms it created.

I think we must remember a couple simple concepts…”what we say more of, we see more of” – and “Our lives follow our language”. )  We have incredible power … we can forecast and create our own weather patterns and we can do it with something as simple as words.   Some people create storms, gloom, and cold showers…others create sunshine, warmth and “great days” and they do it with words..

“No one is less ready for tomorrow than the person who holds the most rigid beliefs about what tomorrow will contain.”  – Watts Wacker, Jim Taylor and Howard Means

This fits all those people in our lives who are prone to denouncing any event in the future with phrases like… “This is gonna suck.”  or “I’m not looking forward to that.” or even  “You just wait until they turn two.”

On this overcast day in lovely Vancouver  –  My goal is SUNSHINE!!

I’d love to hear from you guys… what else do people say that indicates they, and we, may not be ready for tomorrow?

Kirk Out

My favorite weather forecast ever, but Studio C

 

Comments

  1. Hey Kirk – my wife and I recently discussed a new habit of saying Thanks instead of Sorry. It makes a huge difference and takes the focus off of me and puts it on the other person. For instance, when you are late to a meeting – instead of saying sorry for being late, say something like, “thanks for waiting so patiently for me.”
    Instead of sorry, I messed up – Thank you for being so understanding in this situation.

    Self-deprecation is never that pretty, but sincere praise is a beautiful thing to receive.

    Keep up the great work!

    Regards,
    Randy

  2. Jim Schuster

    I agree. When I realized that a new group I was leading had a well-deserved reputation for being negative, we agreed to stop shutting down suggestions from other folks and instead respond by saying “that’s an interesting idea….. let’s explore what it would take to make that work.”

    In short order, the team evolved from being known for shutting down ideas & discussion to one that had started building a reputation for collaborating and fostering ideas. That brought a little sunshine into everyone’s day!

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